When you are interested in a man, how do you let him know it? Do you:

1. Dress in your sexiest clothes to attract his attention?
2. Catch his gaze and give him a sultry smile?
3. Ask him out to lunch?
4. Engage him in friendly conversation?

The approach you chose reflects your personality and your intuitive seduction style.

Some women believe that men are visual creatures, and the best way to entice them is with eye candy. Other women believe that the eyes are the windows of the soul and that a gaze speaks volumes. Still other women believe in being direct and asking for what they want, while others prefer to get to know a man better before making any assumptions about their compatibility.

Just as every woman has a unique seduction style, so every man responds to those signals differently. Not all men find the same techniques attractive. Some men are turned off by a woman who makes the first moves, while others find such directness exciting. Some men find a good conversation more stimulating than surface beauty, while other men will frankly admit that looks are the first thing to catch their eye.

Clearly, the method you use to attract men will determine the kind of man who finds you attractive.

When I first began my investigation into the nature of attraction, I read book after book. I started out with The Rules, Why Men Love Bitches, How to Succeed with Men, How to Have Your Way with Men, and How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You. I moved on to Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps, He’s Just Not That Into You, and How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You. Finally, I reached books like The Real Rules, The FEEL THE FEAR Guide to Lasting Love, and Keeping the Love You Find.

As I read book after book, I began to notice patterns. Light and airy books on attraction seemed designed to attract superficial and easily manipulated men. Well-researched books on understanding members of the opposite sex seemed to reduce romance to mere biology.

When I picked up the last set of books, I couldn’t believe my eyes. Here was an approach to seduction that I’d never imagined. Instead of focusing outward on the process of attraction, these authors (PhDs in psychology) counseled us look inward at our own ability to love. The more we grew in love, they said, the more irresistibly attractive we would become.

Could it be true? Is a warm, loving, ordinary-looking woman more attractive to men than an aloof but gorgeous ice princess? I set out to find the truth.

I sat in bars and talked with men. I went on blind dates and asked them. I interviewed male friends and friends of friends. I emailed female acquaintances far and wide, requesting that they ask the men in their lives for an opinion. I posted the question on bulletin boards across cyberspace.

And what was the answer?

I’d like to say that it was 100% in favor of one or the other. But it wasn’t.

Instead, I discovered something even MORE interesting...

Want to know what it was?

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